One thing that long time comic book readers have probably noticed is how often the parents of superheroes are depicted as being perfect. This isn't always the case but often when a comic does focus on a superhero's parent(s) their flaws are ignored or not portrayed to the extent that you would be forgiven for thinking that they lacked any.
You might think that I should be writing why this is a problem. Generally speaking characters who exist to be perfect are less interesting than their flawed counterparts. It is through a character's flaws that we see their struggles and their journey as characters. Character flaws also allow us to better relate to a character as we can see our flaws in them.
So why am I in favour of a certain group of characters being without flaws? To answer that question I need to examine the roll that these characters play in the stories in which they appear.
First I will look at the example of deceased
I'm not saying that deceased characters should be perfect, in Harry Potter we only really start to see Dumbledore's flaws after his death and the reveals give us a greater appreciation of his character. The fact that these characters die as part of a backstory is key to my argument.
Because the parents of superheroes often die in their offspring's backstory what we see of them is almost always through flashbacks or expanded backstory. This means that from a certain point on wards we are only experiencing these characters through the interpretation of their children.
Take Thomas Wayne and Martha Wayne for example. Bruce Wayne's age is depicted as being anywhere from eight to twelve/thirteen when Thomas and Martha Wayne are killed in front of him. Because of this Bruce sees them the way he did when he was a child. Not only that but because he was only a child when it happened he would be getting a lot of his information on the type of people his parents were from stories about their actions or people who knew them personally. In the case of the former they will be stories deigned with certain angles in mind, and therefore not likely to give a fair and balanced fair of who the Waynes were. In the case of the latter he is unlikely to hear the negative aspects because the teller (say Alfred for argument's sake) aren't going to want to dwell on mistakes that the Waynes may have made because they were very dear to them, and they miss them.
This aspect also explains why figures like Ben Parker are portrayed as perfect even though Parker is older than Bruce was when they wen't through their similar losses. In Parker's case he is going to want to focus on the positives of his uncle because that is naturally would he would focus on, and not just because of his feelings of guilt over the circumstances of his uncle's death.
But what about living parental figures? The best character to use as an example for this is May Parker. In an event with Kevin Smith, Stan Lee said that he came up with the character of May to give Spider-Man someone to worry about. As readers we see May through the eyes of Spider-Man and this view is tinted by his worry and concern for her. This view of May is as complete as Bruce Wayne's view of his parents and isn't a full picture of who she is.
"Everyday the future grows a little bit darker, but the past even the grimy bits, just keeps getting brighter" ~ Sally Jupiter, Watchmen
Spider-Man often worries about what would happen if May were to find out both the full circumstances of her late husband's death and his identity as Spider-Man. Yet in one comic she finds out both of those things and she is able to deal with them. Because she is much stronger than Spider-Man's fears allow him to give her credit for. This highlights the imperfect nature of the lens through which we perceive her character.
In Superhero comics parents and parental figures are often depicted as perfect. This is not however because their writers are lazy, or because the characters themselves are two dimensional. They are seen this way because we are witnessing these characters through the minds of their loved ones. In this capacity they serve as reflections of the hero's mental state. They show us what example the hero is trying to live up to, and also what they have lost or still fear to lose.
